Parentification & Adult-Child Burnout Therapy in Venice, FL

You were the responsible one for a long time. You can put some of it down.

Parentification happens when a child takes on adult roles in the family, whether that’s caring for siblings, managing a parent’s emotions, or keeping the household from falling apart. Melissa Lou Koerner, LCSW, helps adults in Venice, FL, and by telehealth understand those roles and reclaim space in their own lives.

Emotional Parentification

You became a parent’s confidant, comforter, or referee. Their moods set the temperature in the house, and you learned to read the room before you learned to read your own needs.

Practical Parentification

You cooked, cleaned, paid attention to bills, or raised younger siblings. It looked like maturity from the outside. On the inside, it often felt like there was no one to lean on.

Adult-Child Burnout

Now you may be caring for aging parents, or still being called on to fix every crisis. Years of over-functioning and people-pleasing leave a mark. This is a space to rest and reclaim your sense of self.

You may recognize yourself here

  • You feel guilty when you rest, say no, or put yourself first
  • You’re the one everyone calls in a crisis, and you rarely call anyone back for yourself
  • You give endlessly but feel empty, resentful, or exhausted inside
  • You struggle to know what you want, apart from what others need from you
  • Caring for a parent now brings up old feelings you thought you’d moved past

How therapy helps with parentification recovery

Lou draws on family systems, attachment work, Internal Family Systems, and trauma-informed care. Together you’ll make sense of the role reversal you grew up with, grieve what you didn’t get, practice boundaries that don’t require cutting anyone off, and build an identity that’s fully your own.

Many people working on parentification also explore enmeshment and estrangement. Both are part of Lou’s family-of-origin specialty.

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